Getting engaged is an exciting milestone, but it's also an important time to explore deeper questions that will help you build a lasting and meaningful marriage. These 52 deep questions will help you and your fiancé discuss your core values, expectations, and future goals, setting the foundation for a strong relationship.
- What does marriage mean to you, and why do you want to get married?
- How do you define love, and what makes you feel loved?
- What are your spiritual or religious beliefs, and how do you see them shaping our future?
- How do you envision us supporting each other’s personal growth while growing together?
- What are your thoughts on vulnerability, and how do you handle your own emotions?
- What are your biggest fears about marriage, and how can we address them together?
- How do you view forgiveness, and how do you handle being hurt in a relationship?
- What role do you believe communication plays in a successful marriage?
- How do you want to handle finances, and what does financial security mean to you?
- What are your thoughts on debt and managing money in our marriage?
- How do you think we should approach big financial decisions, like buying a home or saving for retirement?
- What are your career goals, and how do you see them fitting into our future?
- What does a successful work-life balance look like to you?
- What are your expectations for intimacy, and how can we maintain a strong connection over time?
- How important is physical affection in our marriage, and how do you like to be shown affection?
- How do you want to approach starting a family, and when do you think the right time is?
- How many children would you like to have, and what are your views on parenting?
- How should we raise our children in terms of values, faith, and discipline?
- What role do you believe in-laws and extended family should play in our marriage?
- What are your expectations for how we will spend time with each other's families?
- How do you feel about setting boundaries with family and friends to protect our relationship?
- How do you handle stress, and what can I do to support you when life gets overwhelming?
- What are your biggest goals and dreams for our future together?
- How do you envision us maintaining a strong connection during challenging times?
- What role does faith play in your life, and how do you see it guiding our decisions?
- How do you think we should make major life decisions together, especially when we disagree?
- What are your thoughts on relocating or making major changes for career or family reasons?
- What traditions would you like to establish in our family, and why are they important to you?
- What’s something about your childhood that deeply shaped who you are today?
- How do you think we should continue growing in our faith together as a couple?
- What are your thoughts on handling conflict, and what do you think is the best way to resolve disagreements?
- What are your love languages, and how can we ensure we’re speaking each other’s love language regularly?
- How do you think we should balance our personal hobbies and interests with our relationship?
- What are your views on maintaining friendships outside of our marriage?
- How do you feel about making time for regular date nights or activities that help us reconnect?
- What’s the most important thing you think we can do to keep our marriage strong long-term?
- How do you define success in life, and what do you think it takes to get there?
- What sacrifices are you willing to make for the sake of our marriage, and what do you expect in return?
- How do you envision our life together in five, ten, and twenty years?
- How do you feel about compromising, and when do you think it’s necessary in marriage?
- What do you think are the biggest challenges we might face in our marriage, and how can we overcome them?
- How do you think we should prioritize our relationship when life gets busy or stressful?
- What are your thoughts on keeping romance alive as the years go by?
- How do you envision us celebrating milestones and anniversaries?
- How do you feel about tithing or charitable giving, and how important is it to you in our financial planning?
- What boundaries should we set to protect our relationship from outside pressures?
- What do you think are the most important qualities that make a marriage successful?
- How do you want to handle career changes, relocations, or other major life transitions as a couple?
- What role do you believe trust plays in marriage, and how can we build and maintain it?
- How do you feel about seeking counseling or professional advice if we ever face difficulties in our marriage?
- What are your views on how we can support each other through tough times, both emotionally and spiritually?
- How can we continue to grow together, both as individuals and as a couple, throughout our marriage?
Having these deep conversations with your fiancé will strengthen your relationship and help you prepare for the journey of marriage. By exploring these questions, you’ll gain clarity on each other’s values, goals, and expectations for your future together.
Looking for more ways to deepen your connection and prepare for marriage? Check out our online premarital course, which covers communication, conflict, intimacy, faith, finances, and more.
