Engagement is an exciting season full of anticipation and dreams for the future. But it’s also an important time to make sure you and your fiancé are on the same page about significant life issues. Having intentional conversations about your values, expectations, and long-term goals can lay the foundation for a healthy marriage. These 25 questions will help you start those important discussions and bring you even closer as a couple.
- What are your top priorities in life, and how do you see those influencing our marriage?
- How do you envision handling conflict when we disagree?
- What role do faith and spirituality play in your life, and how do you want them to shape our marriage?
- How do you prefer to receive love and affection?
- What does a balanced work-life dynamic look like for you in our future?
- What are your views on starting a family, and when do you think would be the right time for us?
- How do you imagine us handling finances—will we combine accounts or keep them separate?
- How do you feel about saving versus spending money, and what financial goals do you have?
- What are your thoughts on managing relationships with in-laws and extended family?
- How do you picture our daily life together in five years?
- What expectations do you have when it comes to household responsibilities and chores?
- How important is physical intimacy to you in marriage, and how do you think we can keep that connection strong?
- What are some of your long-term career goals, and how do they align with our life as a couple?
- How do you handle stress, and what can I do to support you during tough times?
- What are your thoughts on maintaining friendships and individual hobbies after marriage?
- How do you think we should make decisions as a couple, especially when we don’t agree?
- What does forgiveness look like to you, and how do you handle being hurt?
- How important is it for us to grow together in our faith?
- How will we continue dating and keeping the romance alive after marriage?
- How do you imagine us celebrating special occasions like anniversaries and holidays?
- What boundaries should we set to protect our relationship from outside influences?
- How would you describe a "successful" marriage, and what does it take to achieve that?
- How do you feel about relocating or making big life changes for career or family reasons?
- How do you envision balancing time between our families and personal life?
- How can we support each other’s personal growth while staying united as a couple?
Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and being prepared to communicate and navigate life’s challenges together is essential. Before you say, “I do,” take time to go deeper with these questions to strengthen your relationship.
